Wednesday, July 18, 2007

Control

Since her leaving, I have learn about individualism.

Individualism go against Confucius teaching. Confucius encourage one to love people around him and to think for others before himself. Individualism is the opposite: One should take care of himself before he can manage to take care of others.

Then, I have reset my mind to adapt individualism for my thinking method now. I am not selfish but I am just being realistic, so that I will be stronger and continue living on my own.

One should practice individualism because at the end of the day, the last person that going to leave you is you yourself. Only by practicing individualism, one build dependency on himself and not others. Afterall, we can't control others' person thinking as well as we can't control others person's life.

We can only control ourselves and ourselves will never betray us, ourselves will live with us and stay beside us up to the last moment of life!

Control... I have decided to gain back control of myself after realized that I will never ever know what is in her mind. Only by controlling back myself, I don't further waste effort on her. Only by controlling back myself, I live for myself and treat myself better as I don't have to divide resources for her.

I wish i could control my heart to pump slower now... else i might just die off for over-speed-heart-rate.

Next Step: total format of mind and environment, erase of memory...

NULL

Sunday, July 08, 2007

A story...

It started long long time ago at this little river side town. There's a rich family in this town and they have a daughter named Chua. She had reached the age to get marriage but she is still picking here and picking there: she wanted to control her own life destiny to find the best one for herself.

Unfortunate strike: war came. All parents were worried about their daughter when the news of the "Rape of Nanking" arrived. Thus, the family wanted to marriage out the daughter quickly. In result, she was marriage to a well-doing business guy that's 10 year older than her which she had never meet before. And worst, he had a wife in the far far away homeland.

That's the destiny of a women in the era of 1940s.

It's not a fairy tale, so they don't live happily ever after. Although the war is over but her mother-in-law had commit suicided in the homeland due to the war. Her husband is very very sad for this and he had changed. He gamble and drink days and night, spending all his money without leaving a single cent to the family.

Chua used to has a baby but had accidentally aborted. Since then after, Chua lost the ability to give birth. She then adopted a baby girl and a boy in the hope that they will bring some happinesses to her family and also to take care of the duo when they are older. Of course, she wouldn't let the kids know about this. She named the gal as Huang and the boy as Seng.

Time fly and now is the ear of 1970s. It's a fun era where everyone dance with the music and have fun crazily without the worry of AIDS.

The kids had growth up and they are teenager now. They soon discovered their differences and suspected they are not belongs to this family. Again, Chua try to cover it.

Huang then marriage to a nice and humble business man in the capital city of the country. Seng alone stay back in hometown with the family. The life is hard as they have not much saving and properties.

Soon, Seng found his love one who named Moy. Moy came from a chaos family from the village. She tried to escape from the family stayed with Seng. Then, they were marriage even though Seng has no stable income. They give birth to baby gal and named her Yin. 3 years later, she was pregnant again with a baby boy.

Again, this is not a fairy tale so they don't live happily ever after. Accident strike in the night where Seng went out for supper: He got bang down by a drunken motorist when crossing the road. Seng passed away then and 7 days after that, Moy delivered a baby boy.

Life is harder now. Moy has to take care of the old duo as well as the young duo. Nobody knows what supported her going through all these. Meanwhile, Huang isn't living a happy life too. Huang husband's businesses had failed and he got an heart attack due to it. He then passed away leaving two kids, a gal and a boy too.

The family seem to be cursed. All these happened in the 1980s.

Time fly and the two women in the two city had gone thru many hard time and successfully bring up their kids in their own ways. Chua's husband passed away later. It's the 2000s now.

Huang's kids had growth up and they had both formed their own family. Moy's daughter had just get marriage and form her own family as well. But the curse remain on Moy's son...

He is now sitting above the balcony, the choice is simple for him: jump or don't jump. He definitely know the feeling of jumping down from 19th floor height. But he doesn't know how's the feeling of the moment when he bang the ground. That's what make him hold.

His life has never been easy for him. His ideal world is to have everything in binary: either true or false, simple and direct. But the real world that he is living in are always give him more than 2 choices:

What waiting for him infront is his own destiny that he created himself; there's no support from his family, nothing at all. He built it all by himself from nothing... null...

Or he can choose to give up whatever he had built so far and back to the messy home that he never feel he is belongs to. There, he has to take care of 2 unfortunate womens from 2 different era. Suposingly 3, but 1 had just leave him behind after used him for 5 years...

Or he could choose to leave this place and go somewhere far far away and start all over as null. He can afford this as he is confidence and he really has nothing to loose...

Or he could choose the path that his grampa had chosen: to continue fallen...

Or he could just jump down from here, perform his last jump and leave all the messy and miserable to this world. With his dead, he would buried the family curse together with him as he is the only son of the family. He would finally get the total freedom that he always seeking for...